Posted in Being the wife, It's a God thing, Shaveh

Ready, Set…….. Focus! Being the Caregiver of a Covid survivor

The way I’d like to describe how 2021 started was similar to the feeling of an old type writer handle, that you have to push aside to get to the next line. It was a little bit of a “meh” feeling. I did try to pump myself up and dive deep into optimism and, and, and – but I honestly got quite lost in the instant busy-ness of the year – literally as the gun went off I was out of the blocks on the go.

I thought I was going to run hard – do it all, make it “the best year ever”. I mean why not? We’ve started renovating our house – its going to be the way I’ve wanted it for years. The kids are in an amazing place and have the capacity to do all of the things – but, whenever I sat down with my heart and my thoughts to seek out “my word for the year” – all I could hear the Lord gently whispering in my ear was,
“turn around, face the corner – drown out the noise and focus. Focus on me.”

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What’s with this Parenting Journey?

I remember being a new parent – when we got pregnant for the first time and honestly, I thought I had it all worked out. Read the books, apply the techniques and all should be well. Right? Don’t sit there and pretend like you haven’t thought that at least once – parent or not – we’ve all been through that phase of “I could do that, what’s the big deal? It can’t be that hard”

Honestly, with our first little human – I thought I had it waxed. The kid did well with the techniques we applied and we’ve enjoyed every bit of the journey. Why am I writing this part first, you may ask – well after having that sense of “we’ve got this” all of these years, laying the foundations and relationship building blocks there after – I am now at a place of “what the heck?”

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Happy 6th Birthday Jude

I know that your birthday was yesterday and to be honest it was a lot of fun – just like you. There is so much that has happened in one year and I so wish we had cameras following us every day to record the amazing things that you do and say.

Over this last year you have taught me – as your mother – to trust my instinct even more. You have taught me to be decisive about decisions with your needs. I have learned that your well-being is priority over just “hoping it will get better”.

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Posted in It's a God thing, Shaveh

When it’s all said and done…it’s time for 2021

As so many of us are getting ready to close the door on a year that has pretty much, ripped our hearts out and flipped them over and thrown it back in again – I wanted to come on here and just put down my thoughts and gratitude for 2020.

At the end of every year, our family continue with a tradition that we like to call “highlights and low lights”. We do it at every dinner table meal we have at the end of as many days as we are able to. It allows us, as a family to view the world from the eyes of another and to look outside of ourselves and appreciate what another values and has been hurt by. So to culminate the year, we do it at the end of the year as well as a huge summary.

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How to Destress Like a Kid….

I woke up this morning and after hearing what the President addressed us on last night, I really felt that as a grown up I need to find ways to destress without having to leave my home. I then had this epiphony – I’m not too much of a drinker but I do know that lots of people consume an alcoholic drink or two to relieve their stress and “take the edge off” to be able to cope with the coming day or week and so on.

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Posted in A moms opinion, Iraina

11 and Counting : Happy Birthday Princess

I can’t even begin to explain how immensely proud I am to announce the celebration of our Iraina! Every time I get to this point in the year, I am in awe of how much growth, maturity, intelligence, strength, grace, confidence, beauty and so much more – that this precious human has acquired. I know that this is a blog post containing a lot of words, but once you know her – you know that there is no bottling her up or containing within sentences and phrases.

(as a disclaimer to those reading – I like to write these birthday posts as a letters to my children for them to read when they’re older – so I’m switching modes)

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Posted in Family memories, Iraina

First Steps to getting Strong – Support, Structure & then Strength

So we’re back and we get to move ahead with therapy. For those of you that are new, I previously posted about finding out about our daughter’s foot development. So this is the first official update.
Yay! She doesn’t have any fusion of the bones on the ankle and so this means we get to enjoy the short version of therapy. (Which I’m so glad for) Those that know our princess – she has walked around bare foot since she was a little itty bitty princess. Having her wear shoes all the time is going to be a challenge for sure. But this is obviously a sacrifice for the greater good of her physical development.

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Posted in Family memories, Iraina

Catching Things Early : It’s not just the way she walks

I had this whole basic intro ready, but I feel I need to share the heart of why I’m posting this about our sweet 10 year old. You see, all too often I’ve come to learn that if I (as the parent) don’t take note of certain things about my child, and don’t do something about it – it could potentially impact their future in a way that could rob them of pursuing their dreams. There’s a gut thing that women have that can’t be explained (sorry boys – it’s a legit thing) where you just feel something isn’t right and you can’t explain it. Honestly, I had this feeling with our Iraina for years and I am so glad that I acted on it when I did. Here’s what’s been happening.

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Magical Chaos : Episode 5 ~ Fun Finale

And just like that, the series is coming to a close. But obviously, the last episode has to include my own story. I wouldn’t know how to introduce myself without tooting my own horn – which is something I know I can do quite well if you give me the platform.

But in a nutshell I am a Zimbabwean coloured girl that moved to Cape Town when I was 18 to study and fell in love with the city and most importantly the man I fondly call my team mate – Timothy. Our journey spans over 20 years together but if I take him out of the story there’s a kaliedescope of life lessons, massive cat fights and insecurities that I never knew lay under the surface of my extroverted, seemingly secure, exterior.

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Magical Chaos : Episode 4 ~ Starts with Mom

Welcome back to our awesome series. Hasn’t it been good? These women amaze me with their generosity and willingness to share. This is what we call sisterhood and learning from each other, for real.
Today’s mom is a woman I have known for a long time as well. Whenever she walks in the room or is close by, you literally inhale natural goodness. It was the thing that fascinated me from the get go. I had to know why she smelled so wonderful – and not in a “gucci” way. It was like being next to the biggest rose or flower garden.

We met in our homeschooling environments. You see, this mom is also a homeschooling mom and when we started around 10 years ago, being brown and doing this homeschool journey wasn’t as common as it is now. Sadly the homeschooling world was filled with more of our fairer community and it wasn’t often that you got to meet someone from our races doing this.

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