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Being a Ministry Wife – Early Highs and Lows

I’m really enjoying this series and learning from other women who’ve been through different ministry experiences. This week I asked them what their earliest highlight was and what the earliest low light was. With the low light what they learned from it. Once again, as I wrote in the first installment – I’m keeping everyone anonymous and some weeks there’s be plenty of responses and others there’ll be a few because they are all very busy ladies. Here’s 3 stories for you to read. I hope you learn something new about the way that we live our lives.


Wife #1 (me)

It’s funny, when I look back – I was so immature, that I don’t even think I could find a highlight. I was (still am) selfish and just wanted him all to myself and not wanting to have to share him with all of these “needy” people. I look back at myself and I’m like – chill! He is your husband and you’re actually not really sharing him with other people. He was never ‘yours’ in the first place. I’ve grown to learn that God should sort me out rather than me lean on my dude for “love filling”. It was because of this I decided to step back and rather take the time to learn how to support and not try to control. It was so hard to do but the best thing I could have done for our marriage.

But a real highlight was and they still are – watching how he would get an idea to run an event or go somewhere. We would trust God for it to happen and watch Him provide for them. Being exhausted at the end but knowing that God had provided for every single need. I still love these moments.


Wife #2

For me the highlight would be the fact that we were in ministry together. This was something I desired years before my husband got saved. I was saved 6yrs before he committed his life to Christ. His BC days were quite colourful and as a result, being married to an unbeliever was tough. Being in church without him, I would look at husbands and wives/families who worshipped God together and my heart would just break because I wanted that so much…

Second to that would be helping couples restore their marriages. We did a lot of marriage counselling simply because this was something we had first-hand experience with. Years prior , our own marriage was on the brink of divorce. We believe God used us more in this way – because it was something so close to both our hearts.

I guess the lowest point was when we started our own ministry. Had I know the what I know now – I’m not sure I’d have been as keen J. God really tested our faith – going from having steady incomes, with all the perks, medical aid etc. to having absolutely no income, having to go without – not  knowing where the next meal would come from etc. For me, the hardest part was the adjustment and sacrifices my kids had to make. Because our ministry was different to eg Pastoring a church, being the only such ministry in the country,  it was very difficult getting people to support us. Yes, I wanted to run and hide but there was nowhere to run to, except to God. It was just us and Him – a real test of our faith. However, God has proven to be faithful through it all – it’s still a daily walk of faith but all we have to do is look back at all the monuments along this journey and we have no doubt that there’s no situation we can’t overcome – He has it all under control J As the saying goes – if He’s called you to it – He’ll get you through it!

Wife #3

One of the higlights of our ministry is when we went to Namibia for the first time as a ministry couple. Experiencing their culture and meeting new people was amazing.

Low point was when we were newly ordained,  when some of our congregants thought that we were too young to lead. It was very tough finding that place of acceptance but somehow we got through it.

If there are any questions you’d like me to ask these wonderful ladies, please don’t hesitate to ask. I love how we can all learn from each other in all walks of life.



I'm a woman finding my way through life as the wife of Tim, the mom to 3 growing kids and trying to maintain some sort of self through it all. I hope you enjoy reading how I journey with my troops through this thing we call life.

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