As many of you may well know – our oldest is now at an age where she’s old enough to do a lot of different things and her brother and sister are not. There’s a lot of little things that I’m not going to mention because it’s nuts how many there are but, one of them is experiencing Camps. Specifically church or youth camps.Now, I wrote about her first one last year and it was amazing for her.
I went through the motions of ever emotion possible because my baby is suddenly not a baby anymore. But, I know that my heart and gut were ok with it and my hubby was also at peace with the fact that she went on that specific camp.
Now ,there’s another one that’s popped up and honestly I am not feeling it. That peaceful feeling that I had with the last one (even though I went through helicopter mom syndrome) that feeling is not there. My gut turns every time I think about it and I just feel that I would probably have that feeling of regret when she gets back rather than have that warm “so glad you went” feeling.
Ok, so we got the form for this thing like 2 months ago and my daughter has graciously mentioned it a few times and every time I’ve been shoving it aside and saying that I need to chat to her father about it.
But after today and chatting to some dear friends, who have teenagers (both boys and girls) I’m going to trust my gut and say no. I’d rather have her be angry with me for a little while than be on the other side of an unfortunate event that I can not erase from my precious gem of a little girl.
Besides the other moms opinions – I just feel that for something as huge as a camp – I’d really like to “know” the leaders that are taking care of her and also have a vague idea of what kind of children will be surrounding her. I have no cooking clue who those people are and plus she doesn’t really have a “bosom” buddy that is with her in that specific group.
We already have a “no sleepover” rule (unless it’s only girls and their mothers are present for the sleepover) Call me loony, but it works and they’ve had an awesome time with the ones they’ve had and will continue to have without being exposed to things that are potentially harmful to their ever growing psyche.
This is why I have decided to rather inform my husband of the camp (which has been stuck on the fridge for weeks now) and how I feel about it. I am 98% sure that he will agree and we will team up and chat lovingly to our preteen daughter about it.
There will probably be a little back-lash, but more than likely I’m hoping that she will understand our hearts to protect her and that there will be plenty of opportunity in the future.
Have you had to make calls like this one with your kids? Have you regretted being too cautious? Or are you glad that you sided on the air of “safe and not sorry”?