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What’s happening with my Afro?

I’ve had a bit of time to do some comparisons with the products that I put on my hair and I think that I’ve come to a decent conclusion about my growing mane. I have low porosity hair….. that’s the one where it holds water for a while – but I think it’s in sections on my head. So the edges need more moisture and oils and stuff, but the middle to back of my head holds moisture like it’s never going to drink again.

I say I have low porosity hair because I can wash my hair, towel dry it and it will still be dripping an hour later from the wash. This has made putting oils and stuff on it really great because it’s still pretty moist by the time I’m getting to the back of my head.

This brings me to my next point, the kind of product that works well on my head. I used to think that coconut oil did a really good job on my hair to lock in the moisture and really keep my hair well fed for a week – until I discovered Shea butter – I was a lost little afro lamb.

After getting some Virgin Shea Butter from my friends’ amazing company – it was awesome to just see how happy my hair became after I put it on my wet hair.

Shea butter is really hard when it’s cold (for obvious reasons……it’s butter #facepalm) , but once you put in contact with body heat it literally melts like butter.

I’ve done it a few times where I’ve put my hair into either twists or bantu knots (the twists take forever to do, but worked the best to lock in the moisture) and I’ve lathered the butter onto my hair and let it stay like that for a week. I wrap my head at night to make sure that the twists I took forever to make don’t end up as lone antenna on top of my head after a night’s sleep.

It’s made an amazing difference – and the way that I can tell that Shea Butter is literally my “thang”, is because when I take out the twists or knots – my hair bounce out into this amazing set of curls and my fingers literally slide through my hair and it doesn’t have the dry ends that I used to have with coconut oil.

I thought I would confirm my findings with the difference between the coconut oil and the shea butter by doing the bantu knot thing with some coconut oil and you won’t believe how “miff” my ends were. They were dry and hard to send my fingers through. The curls weren’t as awesome and it just wasn’t as amazing as my hair feels with the Shea butter.

So, with this all said, I’m going to be taking my pretty pennies and will be investing in my little jars of Virgin Shea Butter.

As a side note, and something I’ll write about soon – coconut oil works amazingly on my oldest daughters hair especially as a way to protect her hair from the chlorine when she swims. I’m yet to perfect the art of this whole process – but once I’ve done the research then I’m going to share my findings with you guys. Especially with summer around the corner, we have to protect our precious manes.

Any tips and product ideas are really welcome – especially if you have afro hair like mine or hair like my kids. It takes a village peeps – so let’s “village” together.


I'm a woman finding my way through life as the wife of Tim, the mom to 3 growing kids and trying to maintain some sort of self through it all. I hope you enjoy reading how I journey with my troops through this thing we call life.

3 thoughts on “What’s happening with my Afro?

  1. I love you you’re “getting to know” your hair. This is something that I always tell people who’s always asking what I use. It’s so important to figure your hair out yourself because everyone’s hair is different! Looking forward to read more about your hair journey.

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