This might be an over share blog post and so for all of my male readers, just know periods and girlie stuff are at the center of my little stage today. So, if you’re not interested in that kind of thing – cheers – see you next time. But if you have a preteen and are a woman – this might just interest you and also, I’d love to hear what you think.
So, as you might have noticed, in our little picture above – we have 2 beautiful princesses and they are growing everyday. I remember thinking (when they were little) that I should have a plan for every awkward conversation that would ever come up and to be completely honest with them – I got my act into gear and prepared as much as I could.
Now, don’t get me wrong – I didn’t go and research a whole bunch of stuff – honestly, I prayed about it and asked the Lord to drop nuggets for me along the way to help make the conversations as natural, open and honest as possible. Alongside this heartfelt whisper, I also read a few tips and tricks from various sources and have kept them in my back pocket for when the topics have come up.
When we made the decision to be “free” in front of our kids – I remember thinking – well Tim doesn’t have to worry about the kids ever walking in on him putting a pad on or having blood accidentally ending up on his shorts and having to explain that Mom isn’t dying, right? So, let’s just say I have mastered the ninja art of “changing” when the kids are being free around me.
But! Slip ups do happen and I can be so glad for the best advice that I received when approaching awkward situations. The tip was, always take a breath and return the question with the question, “what do you think?” – this has been gold, because it immediately helps me see what level my child is at and how I can answer the question asked.
So, Aislyn and Iraina have both walked in on me trying to “ninja skill” my monthly change up and as they’ve both walked in (they were both around the age of 3 when they each had their turn) I breathe and try to stay calm and stop myself from shouting, “GET OUT!! I don’t want you to see this!”
I did what I was advised to do – I just breathed and carried on doing what I was doing and waited.
Yup, and as you might have guessed – they immediately stop skipping or jumping on the bed or whatever the childish movement they were doing and ask, “Mom, what’s that? And why are you wearing it?”
As advised, “What do you think it is?” and like a charm – they both responded, “Is it a mommy nappy?” as much as I hate the idea that my child thinks that I have some pee problem – they were both being potty trained around that time and so it made sense to them that that is what it was.
So, Knowing that this is the level that they’re coming from – I just said, “yes, sweetheart – that’s what it is. Mommy’s nappy” This was the truth, but for a different reason that they weren’t ready for.
And without skipping a beat – they would turn around and continue their childish thang and say, “ok mom”
Ok, why am I telling you this? Well, in order to get to where I’m going, I have to try and start from the beginning and just say that this conversation wasn’t just a sit down one day when they were 9 and dump a whole lot of chaos on them about the female anatomy.
After that initial conversation the natural progression has been where I’ve walked them down the aisle in the store where the feminine hygiene products are, and ask them what they think they are. There’s realization that these are where mommy’s nappies come from and what they look like. They then start to notice that I buy them every month.
Once we had ‘the talk’, then I was able to explain that even when there is no baby growing in there – it has to be kept clean, so there are muscles that help to push all the old stuff out and make a new cushions in case a baby grows.
This conversation really helped when I was pregnant with Jude because then there was no nappy to be found around the house and they were able to grasp the idea that this is how it works.
So, needless to say, we’ve had age appropriate talks about what is going to happen when their bodies start to change and become ready to have children. Iraina is completely grossed out and is still disgusted by the idea that it’s going to happen every month. She just wants to play and not think about it (which is exactly why I find it heartbreaking when a child younger than 12 gets their period. They’re still so playful and having fun)
Anyway, part of the reason for this post is that I have been doing a lot of research on how to prolong the process and make sure that my children can have as much of a childhood as they possibly can without the adult responsibilities. I’ve come across a lot of information and I won’t share it today because it’s a lot. But what I can tell you is that I am horrified to know what is in the sanitary towels and tampons out there.
I am really struggling with the fact that our bodies have been exposed to such toxic chemicals and we are left wondering why fertility is such a big problem. It may not be the singular component – but by golly, it has it’s contributing factors. There is not one woman on this planet that doesn’t need some form of something to aid in the monthly visit.
So, once I came to realize that this was the case and there’s just too much out there – I’ve been looking at ways to make my daughters journey’s less toxic and more environmentally friendly.
So, what I’m going to do is make a video and chat about the period cup that I’ve been trying out for the last few months. I’m not going to drop the brand name because that’s not what this post is about, but rather share some insight into how I learned how to use it and the tips and tricks I’ve come to learn over the last few months when using it.
I’m not going to say it’s changed my life in a radical way – yes it’s more convenient and kinder to, not only my body, but the environment – but it sure has given us options with regards to helping our girls understand the options that they have and how to protect their precious bodies.
I’m going to post a list of pros and cons and then make it a separate post as it’s quite extensive.
Have you used a cup of any kind? What was your journey like? Maybe you can help me make that list ❤