Two weekends ago, we went to the girls first external gymnastics competition for the year. We’ve been to many of them before but there was something different about this one – well, for me anyway. I wasn’t as confident about my daughter’s performances as I would normally be. Yes, I am ‘that’ Mom – don’t judge me.
For those of you that know me, I’m a competitive person and when it comes to my kids, I’m internally just the same. I hold my opinions in my heart when I’m confident that they can take the top spots, but when I’m not I do the same. So at least I have some self control, right? But what makes it different when I know that they’re not going to excel is the way that I communicate my encouragement to them.
It was an odd feeling for me here. They’re used to doing well and so I didn’t want to prepare them for a win when I kind of knew there wasn’t going to be one. Especially for the one child. The one has really worked hard and I thought she was ready but I wasn’t confident based on a few technicalities that have been happening behind the scenes. And, Yes – I am ‘that’ mom that is going to be honest with my kids, even when I know they’re going to kind of slip up.
So our conversations leading up to the competition had been very much like this, from my side, “what you put in, is what you get out of it” “if you don’t do the drills, then the results don’t happen” “there is so much to work on” and so on. I literally face palm right now! Why?
Well, after about 2 weeks of pep talking my kids on the side about hard work and rewards and that there is a possibility of not placing well……… they both went into the competition cool as two cucumbers and did extremely well!
So much so that my youngest daughter came second overall and my oldest daughter did a routine so well, that even when she fluffed the ending – the judges threw their heads in their hands in disappointment because of the mistake because it was that amazing. I don’t normally put their routines online, but I think for this time and for you to see what I meant – I’m going to show you a few of their amazing pieces of work.
Needless to say, we are very proud of the both of them and as much as I don’t regret speaking to them the way that I did – I am glad that I was proved wrong and that they completely enjoyed themselves and did well despite my doubts.
I am kind of proud of myself because they went into the competition with no pressure from me and did their very best – which proved to be the better option. I’ve learned that mentally coaching them is a good thing and preparing them in this way helps the long game of life in general.