This parenting journey is constantly filled with this blessed word we use – Change. “An act or process through which something becomes different”
Being my own human self, I am in this constant state – becoming different in so many ways. But today I don’t want to talk about myself – I want to highlight ONE of the constant barrages of changes happening in our little family.
I wrote about it a few months, if not a few years ago – about how our three children seem to hit a wave of change all at the same time but in different stages.
It has become a state of normal now – if we can even call it normal – what is normal anyway? right?
Over the last few months I have been in complete awe at how the word change has hit our family.
Without going too deep into the various episodes and what our girls are journeying through – I can’t speak on their behalf until they are willing and open to share their stories.
But my awe has been expressed in how they are just graciously gliding through their development without batting an eyelid.
I want to write this down because its a first time for me and its a memory I want to keep, to come back to when she’s older.
What I find fascinating is that we will write and document milestones when our children are small and celebrate their development when they’re all cute and cherub-like. Yet, we drift off into busyness and forget to capture the moments that are just as precious when they’re older.
To dive right in – We have had to explore the wonderful world of bra shopping. Now, I’m the type of mother that has hoped and prayed that my daughters would be comfortable with the process and to embrace it without embarrassment or shame. It’s a beautiful time and being a women is awesome – challenging at times – but awesome.
What’s interesting is that because adolescence is already such an awkward stage – there isn’t any distinct cut for this stage of life. We couldn’t just walk into a store and pick out the exact numbers needed. We’re in the training stage here – and so we had to go with what this stage requires.
There are so many things to consider. Thick strap, thin strap, T back, strap to hook into T back, just material or padded, colours and textures.
I must admit that I was expecting everything to be a little awkward and filled with shy waves and eye-rolls but my, was I pleasantly surprised.
She had already considered her sporting gear, wardrobe and comfort and let me know exactly what she was looking for. I couldn’t have been more proud to be a mom. I know there have been so many other moments, but right here – our daughter knew exactly what she wanted, voiced it respectfully, considered pricing and he maturity astounded me.
Floating between four different stores – we tried various items on and with all things on the list considered – made our decision and purchased her very first set of under garments that she now has to take care of.
I know some of you may be quite deflated by the vague description, but this is what impressed me. We are in a pandemic at the moment and some stores are not allowing their fitting rooms to be used – so you have to literally try things on right in the shop.
Without batting an eyelid, she tried the bra’s on ontop of her clothing and didn’t even think it was a big deal. I remember that time of my life and I would have buried myself in a huge hole if I had to do that. I am so proud of the fact that she is confident and secure enough to do that.
I can’t take credit for it because each child has their own personality – it doesn’t make her better if her sister doesn’t do it – it just makes me stand back in awe at how we have a flourishing young lady starting to step into the coming teen years with a confidence that only God could have blessed her with.
I am grateful, I am thankful that God is in the process and that the little things that I desired for them – show up in ways I wouldn’t have thought were reflections of His goodness.
I remember having a conversation with an older mom, years ago. She had a son and a daughter – I asked her what stage was her favourite with her children. She said, (without even flinching) “the adolescent years, because I got to witness the birth of a young man and a young woman. I enjoyed every moment and embraced every part of it”
This stayed with me and continues to still stick. Every stage has it’s daunting waves – but when embraced in their fullness, they are a sight to behold. What a gift we have, as parents, to witness the beauty of creation in our own children.
Let’s enjoy them. Here’s to the Change….. all the live long day.