Welcome back to our awesome series. Hasn’t it been good? These women amaze me with their generosity and willingness to share. This is what we call sisterhood and learning from each other, for real. Today’s mom is a woman I have known for a long time as well. Whenever she walks in the room or is close by, you literally inhale natural goodness. It was the thing that fascinated me from the get go. I had to know why she smelled so wonderful – and not in a “gucci” way. It was like being next to the biggest rose or flower garden.
We met in our homeschooling environments. You see, this mom is also a homeschooling mom and when we started around 10 years ago, being brown and doing this homeschool journey wasn’t as common as it is now. Sadly the homeschooling world was filled with more of our fairer community and it wasn’t often that you got to meet someone from our races doing this.
Have you ever met someone and just know that this person is “my kind of people”? Well, this next Mom could literally have been cut out of my heart and soul and put into another human. I literally resonate every time I read or talk to her about something.
She has a generous, gentleness about her and yet she’s spunky and confident about where she’s at in her journey and her own person. She also exudes parental wisdom like a life giving spring. We too, met at a “blogger event” and I immediately did the same thing I did with Nicole from our previous episode – I trolled her like a hopeless teenager because she was so darn interesting. #fangirl
I don’t know about you, but I am really enjoying this series and part of me kind of wishes I could ‘binge read’ it…. Right? But, good things come to those who patiently scroll and ingest in stages.
If you’ve ever met me in real life, I have probably got into your bubble and asked a really personal question and got to know you quite quickly – do I remember your name? uhm, I can try to do it, but I have to talk to you longer than 4 minutes to really get it squared away in my mental files. The mom that I’m about to swing the doors open on today was at an event that I went to and she turned out to be a fantastic companion beside me, about 2 years ago (yoh! I can’t believe how time has flown) – and her name stuck because she is such a peaceful soul.
Before I introduce the first mom that has taken the time to share her story, I want to give a little back story about her and how I came to get to know her so that you guys can feel like you’re part of our friendship.
I remember attending a wedding in 2006 (I think) and there was this bottle blond bombshell of a young lady sitting at the back of the church while the rehearsal was happening. My hubby was playing at the wedding and as it turned out, the bride is a mutual friend of ours. She was (then) the bestmans’ girlfriend.
The one thing that stood out about her was her mellow confidence. She has a gentle beauty that obviously caught the eye of her then boyfriend and now husband.
Throughout the coming years we had occasional interactions – nothing major – but I remember we were at said mutual friend’s house for a birthday party and my oldest was attending and my second princess was a little person. This mom had just had her first princess and was in that “fog” that we all go through – ‘bone tired and just making it through the day’ stage. We compared notes and had fantastic heart to heart mommy conversations – now this was the interaction that I think describes her to a T – transparent, real and nothing hidden, in the best way possible.
I don’t know about you – but I love learning from a person like that.
This is it! I’m finally getting what’s been in my heart out onto a page for all of you to read and journey with me…… or should I say us?…… through.
I remember when I was a new parent, even a newlywed, having all of these incredible women around me that I could look up to and ask questions and tap into for the knowledge I needed for those very precious new moments in my life. Those women have always been there, even to this day and I value their experience and their advice, input and example. They have helped shape my thinking as a wife, mom and woman.
Today marks the 13th year since we became parents to our daughter Aislyn. I CAN NOT believe that it’s been 13 years since our parenting journey began. Honestly, it’s been more than 13 years – I have always believed that the moment you conceive your little people, that’s when you become a parent. Even at 4 weeks, your mindset shifts and you immediately start to think beyond yourself and make decisions beyond your selfish body.
Before I get carried away and start going on about my own experience as a parent and blah blah blah. Today is Aislyn’s day and this should be about her.
Happy Birthday Aislyn! We are so very proud of you and how beautifully you are developing and growing not only as a human being but as a woman as well.
You are strong, you are creative, you are wise and gently generous to those around you. We are amazed at how God has used you and what He’s doing in your life.
As we witness your growth and change we can’t help ourselves but stand in awe of how amazing you have been and becoming. You consider wisdom and take on what you feel is right for you and also (even more so) what is best for others, even if you’re uncomfortable. It’s beautiful to see that even if you don’t like it, you still do it because you know it’s the right thing to do.
As we journey with you as first time parents to you – we pray that this coming season of “teen” will be one of beautiful exchange. As we learn to be your parents, we pray that you would also learn to be free with us to learn with you.
We love you, we trust you and we pray you choose God’s best plans to shower over you.
Over the years, Timothy and I have found that our relationship has cruised along quite swimmingly. This year, April 2020 marked our 15th year of being married and we’re happy to say we’ve survived many a high and low. But at the beginning of this year, we came to a point of realising that we need to stop taking it for granted and truly investing in our relationship and connection.
This parenting journey is constantly filled with this blessed word we use – Change. “An act or process through which something becomes different”
Being my own human self, I am in this constant state – becoming different in so many ways. But today I don’t want to talk about myself – I want to highlight ONE of the constant barrages of changes happening in our little family.
I wrote about it a few months, if not a few years ago – about how our three children seem to hit a wave of change all at the same time but in different stages.
What’s the big deal with colour anyway? Please know that as you read this you’re probably going to bounce between agreeing with me, disagreeing with me or just being indifferent – and in all honesty either one of these responses is absolutely fine. Why? Because you are an individual, with your own point of view and perspective – I respect that.
I’ve taken the last few months to really focus in and be quite harsh on myself. I’ve been finding myself being quite all over the place with everything and not being productive with the children as well as with my own time and skills. Since January – I made sure that they had some serious routine structures in place. What’s amazing – is that now that we’re in lockdown and not able to go anywhere, the children are still thriving and not being spun out by the removal of certain extra-mural activities. Continue reading “Routine + Boundaries = Sanity”→