I had this whole basic intro ready, but I feel I need to share the heart of why I’m posting this about our sweet 10 year old. You see, all too often I’ve come to learn that if I (as the parent) don’t take note of certain things about my child, and don’t do something about it – it could potentially impact their future in a way that could rob them of pursuing their dreams. There’s a gut thing that women have that can’t be explained (sorry boys – it’s a legit thing) where you just feel something isn’t right and you can’t explain it. Honestly, I had this feeling with our Iraina for years and I am so glad that I acted on it when I did. Here’s what’s been happening.Continue reading “Catching Things Early : It’s not just the way she walks”
And just like that, the series is coming to a close. But obviously, the last episode has to include my own story. I wouldn’t know how to introduce myself without tooting my own horn – which is something I know I can do quite well if you give me the platform.
But in a nutshell I am a Zimbabwean coloured girl that moved to Cape Town when I was 18 to study and fell in love with the city and most importantly the man I fondly call my team mate – Timothy. Our journey spans over 20 years together but if I take him out of the story there’s a kaliedescope of life lessons, massive cat fights and insecurities that I never knew lay under the surface of my extroverted, seemingly secure, exterior.Continue reading “Magical Chaos : Episode 5 ~ Fun Finale”
Welcome back to our awesome series. Hasn’t it been good? These women amaze me with their generosity and willingness to share. This is what we call sisterhood and learning from each other, for real.
Today’s mom is a woman I have known for a long time as well. Whenever she walks in the room or is close by, you literally inhale natural goodness. It was the thing that fascinated me from the get go. I had to know why she smelled so wonderful – and not in a “gucci” way. It was like being next to the biggest rose or flower garden.
We met in our homeschooling environments. You see, this mom is also a homeschooling mom and when we started around 10 years ago, being brown and doing this homeschool journey wasn’t as common as it is now. Sadly the homeschooling world was filled with more of our fairer community and it wasn’t often that you got to meet someone from our races doing this.Continue reading “Magical Chaos : Episode 4 ~ Starts with Mom”
Have you ever met someone and just know that this person is “my kind of people”? Well, this next Mom could literally have been cut out of my heart and soul and put into another human. I literally resonate every time I read or talk to her about something.
She has a generous, gentleness about her and yet she’s spunky and confident about where she’s at in her journey and her own person. She also exudes parental wisdom like a life giving spring. We too, met at a “blogger event” and I immediately did the same thing I did with Nicole from our previous episode – I trolled her like a hopeless teenager because she was so darn interesting. #fangirlContinue reading “Magical Chaos : Epidode 3 ~ Gone Before”
I don’t know about you, but I am really enjoying this series and part of me kind of wishes I could ‘binge read’ it…. Right? But, good things come to those who patiently scroll and ingest in stages.
If you’ve ever met me in real life, I have probably got into your bubble and asked a really personal question and got to know you quite quickly – do I remember your name? uhm, I can try to do it, but I have to talk to you longer than 4 minutes to really get it squared away in my mental files. The mom that I’m about to swing the doors open on today was at an event that I went to and she turned out to be a fantastic companion beside me, about 2 years ago (yoh! I can’t believe how time has flown) – and her name stuck because she is such a peaceful soul.Continue reading “Magical Chaos : Episode 2 ~ Too Soon?”
Before I introduce the first mom that has taken the time to share her story, I want to give a little back story about her and how I came to get to know her so that you guys can feel like you’re part of our friendship.
I remember attending a wedding in 2006 (I think) and there was this bottle blond bombshell of a young lady sitting at the back of the church while the rehearsal was happening. My hubby was playing at the wedding and as it turned out, the bride is a mutual friend of ours. She was (then) the bestmans’ girlfriend.
The one thing that stood out about her was her mellow confidence. She has a gentle beauty that obviously caught the eye of her then boyfriend and now husband.
Throughout the coming years we had occasional interactions – nothing major – but I remember we were at said mutual friend’s house for a birthday party and my oldest was attending and my second princess was a little person. This mom had just had her first princess and was in that “fog” that we all go through – ‘bone tired and just making it through the day’ stage. We compared notes and had fantastic heart to heart mommy conversations – now this was the interaction that I think describes her to a T – transparent, real and nothing hidden, in the best way possible.
I don’t know about you – but I love learning from a person like that.Continue reading “Magical Chaos : Episode 1 ~ Expectations”
This is it! I’m finally getting what’s been in my heart out onto a page for all of you to read and journey with me…… or should I say us?…… through.
I remember when I was a new parent, even a newlywed, having all of these incredible women around me that I could look up to and ask questions and tap into for the knowledge I needed for those very precious new moments in my life. Those women have always been there, even to this day and I value their experience and their advice, input and example. They have helped shape my thinking as a wife, mom and woman.Continue reading “Magical Chaos – spinning through the Chrysalis of Adolescence with our Daughters’”
Today marks the 13th year since we became parents to our daughter Aislyn. I CAN NOT believe that it’s been 13 years since our parenting journey began. Honestly, it’s been more than 13 years – I have always believed that the moment you conceive your little people, that’s when you become a parent. Even at 4 weeks, your mindset shifts and you immediately start to think beyond yourself and make decisions beyond your selfish body.
Before I get carried away and start going on about my own experience as a parent and blah blah blah. Today is Aislyn’s day and this should be about her.
Happy Birthday Aislyn! We are so very proud of you and how beautifully you are developing and growing not only as a human being but as a woman as well.
You are strong, you are creative, you are wise and gently generous to those around you. We are amazed at how God has used you and what He’s doing in your life.
As we witness your growth and change we can’t help ourselves but stand in awe of how amazing you have been and becoming. You consider wisdom and take on what you feel is right for you and also (even more so) what is best for others, even if you’re uncomfortable. It’s beautiful to see that even if you don’t like it, you still do it because you know it’s the right thing to do.
As we journey with you as first time parents to you – we pray that this coming season of “teen” will be one of beautiful exchange. As we learn to be your parents, we pray that you would also learn to be free with us to learn with you.
We love you, we trust you and we pray you choose God’s best plans to shower over you.
I was sitting and thinking about marriages (like I like to do often enough when I’m just sitting around doing nothing but wait for my kid to finish swimming) and I thought through some of the reasons why some marriages fall apart or fail. I’m the kind of person that likes to think this way because I like to analyze where my marriage is at according to the information I gather and see how I can improve or dodge various potholes that can so easily happen. I’m not out here criticizing, (I don’t have time to be knee deep in the drama of it all) but rather observing, taking notes and applying various theories to where we are at.Continue reading “Spark vs Flame : Connection in Relationship”
Over the years, Timothy and I have found that our relationship has cruised along quite swimmingly. This year, April 2020 marked our 15th year of being married and we’re happy to say we’ve survived many a high and low. But at the beginning of this year, we came to a point of realising that we need to stop taking it for granted and truly investing in our relationship and connection.Continue reading “Marriage 1•1•1•1”