The way I’d like to describe how 2021 started was similar to the feeling of an old type writer handle, that you have to push aside to get to the next line. It was a little bit of a “meh” feeling. I did try to pump myself up and dive deep into optimism and, and, and – but I honestly got quite lost in the instant busy-ness of the year – literally as the gun went off I was out of the blocks on the go.
I thought I was going to run hard – do it all, make it “the best year ever”. I mean why not? We’ve started renovating our house – its going to be the way I’ve wanted it for years. The kids are in an amazing place and have the capacity to do all of the things – but, whenever I sat down with my heart and my thoughts to seek out “my word for the year” – all I could hear the Lord gently whispering in my ear was, “turn around, face the corner – drown out the noise and focus. Focus on me.”
I was sitting and thinking about marriages (like I like to do often enough when I’m just sitting around doing nothing but wait for my kid to finish swimming) and I thought through some of the reasons why some marriages fall apart or fail. I’m the kind of person that likes to think this way because I like to analyze where my marriage is at according to the information I gather and see how I can improve or dodge various potholes that can so easily happen. I’m not out here criticizing, (I don’t have time to be knee deep in the drama of it all) but rather observing, taking notes and applying various theories to where we are at.
Over the years, Timothy and I have found that our relationship has cruised along quite swimmingly. This year, April 2020 marked our 15th year of being married and we’re happy to say we’ve survived many a high and low. But at the beginning of this year, we came to a point of realising that we need to stop taking it for granted and truly investing in our relationship and connection.
I looked over my blog calendar the other day, and I was gob smacked at how little I have actually been writing. It’s nuts how this kind of thing actually needs to be planned for and allocated time to.
There are so many spheres of my life that I really need to get back into sharing with you guys. I know that I have been talking a lot about the kids and how we go about our everyday lives. But I think that I need to start sharing a little more about Tim and I and what we are going through. Continue reading “Growing up – Husband, Wife, Us…… Me?”→
I’m feeling so bone lazy about this blog thing that it’s getting seriously annoying. Note: this is myself talking to myself here. Lol. Anyway, the day came and went and as we always know – nothing’s changed except the number in the “age” box.
A few weeks ago I wrote about the different Mom “me’s”. It’s honestly the craziest journey to hold all of the “me’s” together and somehow put up some form of ‘normal’ in each scenario. All of this ‘holding together’ while trying to actually discover what each part means and whether they should actually be up front in this current “scene” in my life’s play. Continue reading “My husband’s Patience added Value to another part of “me””→
Before I get into this post – I want you to understand one thing. The TV/Netflix show I’m about to reference is extremely graphic and disturbing to a point of insomnia for some, visual imprints for others and disgusting to the point of nausea. So, if you are sensitive to anything of this nature (e.g. S,V,L,P +16 movies) I would recommend finding the book and reading it and not watching the series Continue reading “My response as a parent to 13 reasons why”→
Every time I think about writing about being Tim’s wife and what we do, I honestly sit and have a debate about how much do I share and what do I keep private. You know? It’s this toss up between being too familiar and private or too much information or should I share a lot more? I have this debate because as much as I love to write and record what my thoughts are and what’s happening – it’s not just my life here, it’s Tims’, my kids and those closest to us. Continue reading “Being married to an “all in” kinda guy – it’s not what you think……”→
So yesterday my hubby and I marked 12 years in our marriage belt. I honestly feel like I’ve been married for longer, but 12 still feels really good to say. But what’s really awesome (and wasn’t planned at all this way) is that we share our anniversary with my grandparents who have been married for 62 years. 62 years, just let that sink in a bit….. Continue reading “What being married has taught me”→
Being “the wife” has so many perspectives that it’ll probably take a book to give an account of every kind and the reason would be – because every marriage is unique and every woman is approaching their relationship differently. With that said, I’m going to shed some light on an aspect of being “the wife” that you’ll either relate to, be indifferent to or think I’m completely insane to live like we do. “The wife” perspective in this post is the “ministry wife”. Continue reading “When He’s out late, a lot : being the “Ministry Wife””→